Every parent goes through the awkward situation where they get a judgmental gaze from public for the bad behavior of their children. It is quite natural for children to get more excited and more stressed when they are in public. Even the “wonderful” kids at home have their own mood swings when taken outside. If you become an authoritarian parent to control the child at that time, it might work as long as you show physical control. Instead, help your child to understand what behavior is appropriate and what is not. Here are some do’s and don’ts for parenting in public.
DO’S AND DON’TS
- Staying Connected to the child
Do’s: Observe and listen to the child. If she feels hungry, then feed her before taking out. If you are taking the child to a new place, talk to him/her beforehand about the place. The more connected you are to the child, the more they will feel comfortable.
Don’ts: Do not take a hungry or tired child anywhere. Also, if you find that the child is not in a good mood, avoid going out on that day.
2. Discuss your expectations
Do’s: Explain the child about the place you are taking him/her to and what is expected out of them. If you are going to a place for prayer, then explain them about remaining silent and the reason behind it.
Don’ts: Physical control won’t work here. It would only make things worse. If they don’t behave the way you expect them to, then train them gradually.
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3. Involve your child
Do’s: When you taking your child to see your friends or neighbours, teach and encourage them to say ‘Hello’ and ‘Bye’. When you go for shopping, allow them to touch and select few things. Also, discuss together about the items available at store. Once their curiosity starts growing, they will stop making tantrums.
Don’ts: Be a friend and do not compel them. They will learn it in a matter of time.
4. Give them your attention
Do’s: Most of the time, the behaviour of children turns bad because they feel insecure. In order to get your attention, they “act out”. Also, as their attention span is small, they tend to become irritated soon. Take time to connect with them and give them your attention. A small hug, a little kiss and an eye contact will do the magic!
Don’ts: When you are in a hurry to finish your work, you either tend to ignore the child’s tantrums or you end up hurting them verbally and physically. Instead, a few minutes of showering your love makes things easy for both you and your kid.
5. Dancing to your child’s tunes
Do’s: In a situation where you are travelling, it is normal to either distract or give-in to your child’s wishes.
Don’ts: In other normal situations, acknowledge their needs, but set limits to approval.
Parenting in public needs lot of patience and inner calmness. Calm yourself and remember that your child is of foremost importance to you. Listen to your child, redirect his curiosity whenever needed and talk to him/her in private.
Helping your child to understand the situation will do more good than threatening the child.
