Overparenting Is – To be excessively involved in the day-to-day life of one’s child, typically in the desire to shield them from difficult situations or help them to succeed.
As parents, we all have that innate desire to protect and provide for our kids. Yet, at some point we must ask ourselves, are we doing too much for them? When do our actions cross the line from offering security and support to embarrassing them in front of the world?
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE:
From my personal experience, I have a friend who used to overprotect her kid, her motherhood was totally different from a regular mother…she would be with her child all the time, never let her alone hangout with her friends. That girl was very much frustrated not because of her mother but because of her odd behavior. She would poke her out in every manner.
In the era of my childhood, there was no such thing as “parenting”. There were parents, of course, but child rearing was a fairly simple pursuit, not an active verb….
SNAGGING POINT:
The mis-attunement in this particular mother’s actions was clear in everything from her lack of pause to the odd choice of items she brought to soothe her daughter, whose minor injury doubtfully rendered her. We all should be able to make our kid strong to face the outer World and to make their own decisions.. overparenting may also lead to cowardness
Similarly, many parents tend to offer kids praise as a means of boosting their confidence. While acknowledging our children’s positive traits is healthy and beneficial to their development, offering them empty praise can be just the opposite.
RESEARCH FACT:
A study showed that kids who were rewarded or complimented for menial or unfitting attributes saw no benefit. on the other side if kids are being left free, and concentrate on their other extra activities in which they are interested,they can make wonders. By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren’t actually helping. I think parents should stop defining their children’s by their grades or points.
ENJOY THE PARENTHOOD WITH YOUR KIDS BY LOVE BUT NOT BY DOMINATING!
To be excessively involved in the day-to-day life of one’s child, typically in the desire to shield them from difficult situations or help them to succeed.
As parents, we all have that innate desire to protect and provide for our kids. Yet, at some point we must ask ourselves, are we doing too much for them? When do our actions cross the line from offering security and support to embarrassing them in front of the world?
From my personal experience, I have a friend who used to overprotect her kid, her motherhood was totally different from a regular mother…she would be with her child all the time, never let her alone hangout with her friends. That girl was very much frustrated not because of her mother but because of her odd behavior. She would poke her out in ever manner.
The mis-attunement in this particular mother’s actions was clear in everything from her lack of pause to the odd choice of items she brought to soothe her daughter, whose minor injury doubtfully rendered her. However, we are all guilty of mild and extreme acts of over-protectiveness and over-parenting that can be very damaging to a developing child.
Similarly, many parents tend to offer kids praise as a means of boosting their confidence. While acknowledging our children’s positive traits is healthy and beneficial to their development, offering them empty praise can be just the opposite.
A study showed that kids who were rewarded or complimented for menial or unfitting attributes saw no benefit from the praise. Conversely, acclaim offered to kids for real characteristics did have a positive effect on their self-esteem.
By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren’t actually helping. I think parents should stop defining their children’s by their grades or points.
Gouri Boddupally – Mom who is an active participant in Simple Indian Moms.
